Monday, June 26, 2006

What do you think?

My niece just called me to go on the web to see her friend's web site sorryassbabydaddies.com. The site is supposed to be a forum for female single parents who are not getting child support to put their children's fathers on blast. I went through her site (misspellings and grammatical errors in all)and left with mixed feelings. First, there is a lot of drama because she posted her children's pictures on the site and people feel like she is exploiting them. Her reasoning is that when the news media and talk shows show children, aren't they exploiting them too or is that just business? Secondly her site is poorly edited and managed - not all her fault. Lastly, people ask what is the point? As a single parent I have to 90 percent agree. That kind of anger does not have a place in your home. How can you give your children all of your love,when you are filled with so much anger? It is not good for your physical or mental well-being. The other ten percent of me agrees that absent parents need to be held accountable. So many single parents (male and female) are struggling to give their children a better life than they had. A bigger issues is raising our daughters and sons to become parents by choice not by chance. Children do not come with instructions and parenthood is not something you should get into lightly. Now I agree for a lot of us single parents, our intent is for happily ever after - I know it was mine. I loved my children's father and I find comfort in the fact that they were born from that love. Yes, I wish things would have turned out differently but I know the only way to give my children a fair chance in life is to put away that negativity and be the best I can be. What do you think?

4 comments:

Lisa D. aka Maxinit said...

Tamika, although I don't have any children...I share your sentiments!

toya said...

girl, yes,, there is a right way to deal with these things, maybe it's good to have a place for single mom's to vent but some people can be out right ridiculous, ignorant and offensive and may not be optimistic about there plight, we all have to admit, some females are just as trifling as their baby daddies and you have to wonder where they end up in that situations. My dh is a "baby daddy" and he takes care of his responsiblities better than he takes care of himself and still gets the shaft sometimes.

Veroncia said...

Amen Sister. There are so many negative things in this world that I can't control. So why would I add to it in my home and in my DD's life. It's a comfort to me knowing that our child was created in love (at least on my part 100%). DD knows it and will never hear anything else different from me.

~Robyn said...

I must say that that is an interesting site, however I agree with your. There is a right and wrong way to deal with this type of situation. I believe that no matter what the situation, you can handle it shile representing yourself with respect, pride, and class.

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